Living for Outcomes vs. Living for You

Everything we do has to mean something these days. If it’s not for an outcome, why even bother? That’s what the world tells us.

Grind culture.

Productivity hacks.

"How to maximize your potential in 3 easy steps" nonsense.

We’ve turned our lives into a giant checklist, hoping at the end of it, someone hands us a trophy for "Most Perfect Life."

Spoiler alert: no one’s handing out trophies.

Think about it:
You’re funny on a first date—not because it’s fun—but because you want her to like you.

You hit the gym—not because it feels good—but so people think you look good.

You post on Instagram—not to share your life—but to rack up likes and followers.

To take action solely for an outcome is the effect of society’s constant need for one.

It feels as if our whole lives have been taken over by the need to produce a “good life.” Whatever that means.

And sure, all of this makes sense. We’re human. We want to be loved, admired, respected. But somewhere along the way, we stopped doing things just because.

When’s the last time you sat on your couch and just sat? Not meditated. Not doom-scrolled. Just sat, because you felt like sitting?

Or did something stupid—like dance in your kitchen, take a walk without headphones, or make a meal that wasn’t Instagrammable?

And look maybe you have. I’m just trying to make you see through your thoughts. Maybe this clicked for you. Maybe it didn’t.

To be honest this was just a thought I had, and wrote down. Not for the outcome.

But because I wanted to.